The random ramblings of a perpetual procrastinator. These are the life & times of a nursing home CNA navigating the ups & downs of living with someone who's living with a disability. A sometimes amusing, sometimes bittersweet look at my journey into real adulthood.

Sunday, July 4, 2010

There are some things that I can't do for you.

DJ needs a new wheelchair - badly.  He's been using his "spare" for months now because his original randomly broke one day.  This one is on it's last leg - no pun intended.  Although this may not seem like a big deal, it's a pretty hot topic in our house.

I would never say this to DJ, because I've learned to pick my battles, but I think I've spoiled him by doing everything all the time.  I can count on one hand the number of times he's done dishes since we moved into the new house, & even then he just loaded the dishwasher.  He doesn't do any other housework, except to clean the garage - because I absolutely refuse to do that.  The man cave is his responsibility.

Since I'm at work all day, he's had to be the one to make all the phone calls & deal with all the mortgage stuff - which is a freaking fiasco.  He gets pretty testy about it, & when he's mad he sort of implies that I should be doing more.  Well love, when exactly would you like me to do that - before I cook dinner at lunchtime while trying to get myself ready for work, or after I get home at 11:30?

That's not even the big issue.  The big issue is my original topic:  the wheelchair.  During the move (and because Social Security is screwed up!), his insurance lapsed somehow.  He's trying to straighten all that out, but he gets frustrated & gives up after a while.  The ownership I can take is that there are still a bunch of boxes that aren't unpacked, & some helpful paperwork is probably in them.  However, that is not preventing him from getting this taken care's just an excuse.

I love him & there's nothing I wouldn't do for him, but I can't do this.  This is something he needs to take care of.  I know it's annoying, & I'd want to give up too - but sometimes in life you just have to put on your big-girl-panties & get the job done.  I think this is one of those times.


  1. I tried talking to him the other day about the insurance thing ... and you know how well that went over. I hope he gets the chair situation taken care of, before he's sitting on the floor. :/

  2. What a tough position, It is really hard to just say ok your on your own with this one BUT it needs to be done you cant do it ALL hun. He will get it together! Its just a lil tough love. Hang in there = D

  3. There's a website that was featured on a while back, and I *wish* could remember the name of it. It was a site where you could put in a request (like the wheelchair), and people can donate. Anybody can log on a donate as little or as much as they want to any cause they decide they like! Maybe if you google it you can find it...know that's not a ton of help, but maybe it'll be something!

  4. I just linked it up for you. I missed this post sorry! Ugh I get so frustrated with the SSI insurance thingy. If it was for myself and not my son I would probably be DJ. Thats no excuse though!! That really will suck if the chair breaks before he gets a new one. Too bad you cant rig it to make it seem broke and teach him a lesson!

    Men, Kids, & Pets... they will drive you crazy if you let em!!!

  5. Thank you for all the kind words ladies! I really, really appreciate it.

  6. Hey how are you? haven't seen you in bloggyland