Before I met DJ I was engaged. Getting married was something that he & I had casually mentioned, but it wasn't something we seriously planned. When he proposed, I was totally shocked. Like most women, I wanted to start planning immediately, & that's when the trouble started. Suddenly there were all these specific reasons why we couldn't get married for several years, & so he didn't think there was any point discussing it - ever. And so, things slowly deteriorated until the eventual end.
It was around the same time that my plans for a big, fat, fancy wedding went out the window.
DJ & I have no plans to get married anytime soon. There are financial factors, as well as emotional ones. He was engaged before too, & I think we're both a little jaded about what happened before. Plus for us, it's just a a piece of paper that doesn't change what we already have, so there's no real rush.
When we do decide to get married, here's what I want:
- We live at the base of the mountain, & there's a great view from our backyard, so we'll get married there. It will be fall, when the leaves have already changed colors but before it gets too cold.
- Because DJ & I have some alternative beliefs we'll have an alternative ceremony. I'll leave it at that.
- Afterwards we're going to party because, well, I like to drink. I'm thinking picnic food, or maybe a pig roast. We'll have music & a bonfire. When it's over, everyone can find a spot on the furniture or floor to pass out.